Default Settings
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An E-mail Sent To A Local Pastor Who Had Proclaimed "We're Not Comfortable Addressing This Issue . . ." |
New Life in Christ!
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There's something about the word "new" that fills me with anticipation. The word "new" implies that it hasn't been messed up. |
The Heart Of God
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Survivors of sexual abuse feel dirty and defiled; therefore they feel that God views them that way as well. Victims of ongoing domestic violence have had their self-esteem utterly destroyed to the point that they feel unlovable by both man and God. |
Healing The Brokenhearted
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Who are the brokenhearted? Those who are suffering from chronic depression. Jesus came to heal those who are suffering depression, an affliction that is common to most survivors of sexual abuse and prolonged domestic violence! |
Don't Let Headship
Go To Your Head
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Headship in the Christian family is usually taught from the prospective that man, as the head of the family, is the "boss." The end result of this mentality is that many carnal Christian husbands use their position of headship as an excuse to manipulate, control, dictate and rule over their family. What they fail to recognize is this, God does not promote that we might rule and dictate, but rather, that we may serve. |
Emotional Blackmail
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"My husband told me that if I didn't drop the charges, he would tell our children that it is my fault he was sent to jail!" It is not uncommon for men who have been released from jail on parole to tell their wife or girlfriend that if they report them to the police for domestic violence that their parole will be revoked, and it will be their fault they are sent back to prison. WRONG! I can think of only one-way to describe this type of satanic manipulation . . . emotional blackmail. The perpetrator seeks to make you the fall guy, the heavy, the villain. |
God's Healing Love
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Love . . . the desire of every human heart is to love and to be loved. Yet multiplied millions of God's children have been so deeply hurt and devastated in the name of love that the words, "I love you" create fear and apprehension instead of security and fulfillment. Their exploitation in the name of love makes them wary and suspicious of anyone who proclaims to love them. |
Two Sides of the Coin
(Domestic abuse towards men.) |
After New Man, published a cover story on domestic abuse against women, the editors were shocked to find themselves inundated with letters from anonymous husbands begging the magazine to tell the other side of the story. These men were literally pleading with the church to take their plight seriously. |
Healing Love
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He almost lost the chance to grow up. At the age of two, he was admitted to a hospital malnourished, battered, almost dead. He later wished he was dead, but no one heard his silent cries! He listed the kinds of abuse he and his twin sister endured: "Placed on top of hot stove, forced to eat stool and bars of soap until he vomited, head split open many times with spiked dress shoes or a stick. Beaten without clothes on. The list goes on and on. He was beaten almost every day about 4-6 times per day." |
Lying Vanities Exposed!
(Victim Blaming) |
There is a particular lying vanity that keeps the victims of abuse in deep emotional torment, even depression. This in turn keeps them from experiencing God's Healing Mercy. That lying vanity is called victim blaming. The perpetrator of sexual abuse and domestic & dating violence always blames the victim. |
Memories
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Memories can work for us or against us. They can recreate moments of love, security and fulfillment, or they can recreate moments of pain, anguish and devastation, and here's the key, we can chose our memories by choosing our thoughts! |
Let The Little Children
Come Unto Me |
Recently I was contacted on behalf of a small ministry. Its pastor had a son and a daughter that were elementary school age. The family and ministry was torn apart when it was discovered that a member of their church had fondled the boy and raped his younger sister. Would I be willing to help? There could only be one answer to that question, of course I'm willing to help. As I hung up the phone I began to experience a familiar emotional conflict, gratitude and anger. |